O.k this is the problem.Shes older and i’m younger,We have been together for more than a year.We talked about kids and even moving in together.We even looked at houses together.We talked everynite before we went to sleep over the phone.We did everything together and always kept it active ie plays movies, restuarants etc.Our honeymoon phase never ended even after that 5 months of meeting each other.So it was good. Then 5 months ago she said she had concerns and wants me to improve.ie be more open about myself “let down the wall” . So i did. i let down the wall, showed her everything and told her everything. See her last ex’s never did and always treated her wrong.Btw, she has baggage..married, divorced abortion HPV. I still dealt with it and stuck with her after the 1st month she told me. Anyway, than out of the blue two weeks ago she said I dont think this is going to workShe said your not independant and no 401k plan investment.After the break up i havent called her.Will she call me?
btw she lives with her mom 1, to save money 2, her mom is disabled.
For a short time i was living with my brother until my mother suffered a stroke , than i took it upon myself to stay with my mom. She, my ex, knew this before coming into the relationship. She said she was o.k with it. She wanted me to improve, and i did. I always kept the romance alive. And when we talked about kids and moving in together, i was totally for it. I never detered from it or changed the subject. Always told her i cared for her etc… One week before the break up. we bumped into one of her friends and they asked if are moving in together and she replied yes. Then a week later she dumps me.. WTF? ..lol. Will she call me… i havent email, txtm, or called her. What should i do?
I spend equal time between her and my family…ie mother, brother. I think she thinks i spend more time with my family than with her. I spend time with her every weekend and once or twice on the week.

i get married in 11wks and we already live together and have all that we need( and then some more) so for our wedding gifts we are doing a wishing well in which all money that we get gives us a bit of a honeymoon as we aren’t having one due to the cost of the wedding but i am getting a lot of nasty comments on it and people are saying they won’t do it and wil give a gift instead whether we want one or not we have told them if they don’t wish to contribute to the wishing well then please bring nothing just themselves and a good time!! how to deal with this please help
i’m not pressing the issue of it people like to know that stuff they give you will be used i would love anything people give us and be gracious with it either way but when i give a gift i like to know that the person could really use it or want it, we put down our pref this isn’t the dark ages time’s have changed , and being able to save for our honeymoon went out the window when i discovered i was sick not long ago so with my htb working his tail off to get my med’s and the wedding a honeymoon was what we decided we would both need to relax away from it all and enjoy each other even if it’s for a couple of days

Many people say sex is awkward, painful, and horrible the very first time. I’m waiting for marriage and am thinking wow, the honeymoon is going to be terrible for that part. Which really isn’t that big of a deal but I wonder if it won’t be as awkward as it is fir most people due to the fact of you being more comfortable with the person your with. I plan on being with a guy for at least 2 years before I marry him. In that amount if time we would hopefully be 100% comfortable with each other. Maybe sex would be less awkward if you knew person well, you wouldn’t be shy, etc.
I’m looking for more reasons to wait until marriage to convince others and show others the benefits (which there is tons)
opinions?
I didn’t ask whether you approved of abstinence or not. I don’t judge those who don’t wait so dont judge me.

I started dating this girl that had a crush on me in high school. she graduated this year, I graduated the year before. We had a lot of great conversations, she laughed at things I said and did, and we had some very good dates and did some very good things after some of those dates After about 1 month, things changed (as they tend to do) and now I have some serious thinking to do…

I know we are now out of the honeymoon stage and now need to think long and hard about whether this other partner is the real deal for each other. I believe I am in love, there is just something about her that I cannot explain, no matter what happens, I just want to be with her. That said however, I have found some very severe problems with our relationship:

I just got off the phone with her and she had said I was predictable… the topics I would choose to talk about at least( I interpret this as being boring[not good] and also feel that, obviously, I would have certain topics that i would prefer to talk about)

Also she is saying we dont get to be alone together that much, and that when we are alone, there is nothing to say, and she doesnt want to do anything i offer to do with her.

there is always something that she can complain about at the end of the night.

says she doesnt even think about sex or masturbate anymore???? wtf? (although after sex she is always giddy and happy and smiley and talks about how good it was..)

she is very uncomfortable around my family, and hers for that matter, to the point where she doesnt even want to see them/be in the house when they are there) we both just graduated high school remember.

I am definately a family man and am alright doing stuff with my family and helping out, I want a family of my own someday, with at least one child, maybe two.

she does NOT want to get married(doesn’t bother me that much) nor does she want ANY kids.

she is very easily frustrated, angered, and tires easily, also has many potential future health concerns.

all of this said, she is very determined and stable, and does not drink or do drugs, or do anything illegal. she is very nice(can be), thoughful and creative and we have a lot of the same hobbies. when she smiles Im happy and when she laughes I melt. I love her and care for her very much. She has said she cares for me and has deep affection for me and said she thought about saying “I love you” but it “hasn’t been consistent feeling yet”.

so do I need to get the balls out of this relationship, or are these problems something that my care for her should override?

My husband and I are looking to take a better-late-than-never honeymoon. We are wanting something all-inclusive preferably couples-only because we don’t really want to deal with kids, nor do we want it to be too much of a party/”spring break” atmosphere. We’re in our 20′s. We’re mostly looking to lay around on a pretty/clean beach, drink fruity alcoholic beverages and spend a lot of time in our room. As long as the food is okay/edible, we won’t complain. It’d also be good if there was some kind of bar/nightlife included as well. We were thinking Sandals but if someone has a better suggestion let us know!! Thanks for your help.

My wife and i have been married about just short of a year and we have our fair share of problems right now.It started when i cheated on her when i got wasted at my bachelor party 2 days before the wedding.It was a huge mistake,a one time deal, and i have not cheated on her since our marriage.We got married and on our honeymoon she announced she was pregnant with our first child.I was thrilled but she was indifferent to the whole thing?Things got bad she became a barley there paritcipant in sex and hated being touched.I assumed it was just hormones at this time my wife wanted counceling but i did not have time due to a new job.She miscarried due to a car accident and i thought we might try again …she refused.When we were dating we would fight but we would get over it.Now my wife wont really react to much and will act indifferent to everything some days are better than other though.Recently she has started talking/seeing her family and going out with old friends again but she wont..
or barley communicates to me at all?I found out recently that she forgave an ex.bf who beat her up(hospitalized her) the guy was on something to enhance his performance it fights so it was bad but she cant seem to fogive me for one error?and she has been getting closer to a male friend also an aquantance of mine but say she’s not cheating.

Terry currently lives in Oxshott, Surrey. He and his wife Toni Poole Terry are the parents of twins, a boy (Georgie John) and a girl (Summer Rose) born on 18 May 2006. Terry celebrated their birth when scoring for England against Hungary, when he performed a “baby-rocking” celebration.

The couple married at Blenheim Palace on 15 June 2007 in a magazine coverage deal, and requested Harrods gift vouchers as wedding presents. After the wedding, the couple enjoyed a two week honeymoon on Roman Abramovich’s super yacht Pelorus in the Mediterranean.[18]

His hobbies include golf, swimming, football and darts.

Terry currently lives in Oxshott, Surrey. He and his wife Toni Poole Terry are the parents of twins, a boy (Georgie John) and a girl (Summer Rose) born on 18 May 2006. Terry celebrated their birth when scoring for England against Hungary, when he performed a “baby-rocking” celebration.

The couple married at Blenheim Palace on 15 June 2007 in a magazine coverage deal, and requested Harrods gift vouchers as wedding presents. After the wedding, the couple enjoyed a two week honeymoon on Roman Abramovich’s super yacht Pelorus in the Mediterranean.[18]

His hobbies include golf, swimming, football and darts.

I really don’t! In fact, I’m dreading it! I hate being center of attention, I hate wearing dresses, I hate being always asked a million questions about how the wedding planning is going, and I hate how when things start to flow and I actually do start somewhat planning, something gets thrown in and makes it so it wont be how I want it. If it weren’t for my fiance wanting to have a wedding, I would be thrilled to be going to the court house asap just so I don’t have to deal with it anymore. I love my fiance and I would rather get married cheaply, have a great honeymoon, and not be in debt afterward. I actually feel bad because everyone (including my fiance) is more into the planning of fine details than I am, and I’m the bride! This may be more of a rant than question. I guess my question is, am I weird?

We would like to have the traditional Shighaar marriage when a man gives his daughter to his friend and in turn his friend also gives his daughter to him. It is an exchange of daughters. It is very popular in Saudi Arabia and indeed it is said, that a daughter’s virginity is a true gift of friendship, so yes , our daughters are 16 and 18. My friend and I have known each other for a long time , since college, and I would be very happy for my daughter to marry a practicing muslim, whom i know well and trust, my friend thinks the same. They will be our second wives. I remember when when we graduated college, my friend said “Brother ! one day, I will give you my daughter if you will give me yours” and I said “Yes Brother! consider it a deal” and we shook hands on it. Now , the time has come, soon , we will be on honeymoon enjoying our young wives. Life is great, don’t you think? Praise Allah.